I enjoyed reading your piece Richard, having trod a similar dilemma. It is not the same, because the decision affected only myself. We’d lived in this home almost 40 years when death suddenly parted us. With my world turned upside down, the familiarity of it was like a warm hug and was a great help in surviving the loss. In my eighties yet in decent health, for five years I couldn’t think of leaving - until suddenly I knew I was ready. For all the nostalgia, I’m tired of being responsible for this old house and yard. I’m so thankful that I went with my gut feelings - and that no one pushed me. So my advice would be to consider all sides to your story and listen to your gut.

I now have plans for an independent living apartment in a senior community where help when needed will be available. Life can get pretty isolating in time and I’m truly looking forward to relating to a built in community as much or as little as I choose. I will continue to surround myself with familiar objects and the memories they hold and to trust God who has been my anchor thus far.

May God be with you also as you find your answers!